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Dublin’s Liberal Downtown
Dublin resonates with images and sounds both ancient and modern.
As I walked into a gay/mixed café/bar called The Front Lounge, located
only steps away from Dublin Castle, I could hear Christ Church
Cathedral’s 18th century deep bell tolling six blocks away. Suddenly
slicing through the sonorous chime like a jack hammer was the ramrod
roar of a Kawasaki motorcycle charging past and round the corner of
O’Neill’s Victorian pub with its stained-glass windows.
Inside the Front Lounge an assortment of patrons huddled over their
Guinness, Cokes or Beaujolais chatting with friends as they gestured
with cigaretted hands punctuating their talk. The Front Lounge is
a gay/mixed place with high ceilings, lots of floor space, comfortable
sofas and a lunchtime food bar. Along the walls are paintings and
sculptures bathed under display lighting.
I listened for a while as four men in their twenties and thirties
bantered and asserted their momentary thoughts about friendship, job
security, a new outfit, changing flats, and gossip from a recent party.
Each one of them had a cell phone that seemed to chirp every twelve
minutes. From their accents it was obvious they were not all Irish. As
it turned out no one in this little clutch was. One handsome dark man
spoke Spanish. When I asked him from where he replied,"from Columbia—but
my father is Irish". Another member of their circle was from Brazil, a
third from Paris and the other from Italy. Modern Dublin is busy, gay
and very international.
The capital is a remarkably comfortable metropolis in which to be a
gay or lesbian denizen. In no small part is this due to the esteemed
former President Mary Robinson (currently the UN’s high
commissioner for Human Rights whose term ends in 2002) who as a young
solicitor took her own government to the European Court of Human Rights
because of its anti-gay statutes still lingering on the books from an
obsolete moral era.
She and co-counsel David Norris won their case and the Irish parliament
was left struggling to modernize their legal thinking about
homosexuality or face censure from the European Union, something Ireland
could ill afford. In the ten years since that landmark action, Ireland
has made up for lost time with some of the most pro-gay protections
and equality laws in the European Union.
Literary
Dublin
Dublin is also unique in the prominence and visibility it gives to
its literary figures—gay or straight. James Joyce’s visage
has at least two statues around town (photo right). In Merrion Park, gay
icon Oscar Wilde (once imprisoned for loving another man) has a
dramatic—if not a quietly flamboyant--presence in colored marble. His
unusual reclining statue (photo below) is located across the street from
his childhood home, now a museum owned by the American College in
Dublin. A nearby bookstore sells postcards with the faces of Irish
writers: in addition to the two well-knows with statues, there are
J.M.Synge, Jonathan Swift, Sean O’Casey, Brendan Behan, W.B. Yeats,
Samuel Beckett, Bram Stoker, and G.Bernard Shaw.
And this literary tradition is not just an historic artifact. In the
October ’02 issue of Gi magazine (Gay Ireland) four of Ireland’s most
respected living writers are profiled—all happen to be gay: Jamie
O’Neill (author of ‘At Swim, Two Boys’, recently made into a mainstream
film), Colm Toibin (nominated for the Booker Prize in 1999 for ‘The
Blackwater Lightship’), Frank Ronan (awarded a top Irish prize for his
1989 ‘The Men Who Loved Evelyn Cotton’) and Keith Ridgway (debuted in
1989 with the intense ‘The Long Falling’).
So it should not be surprising that in such a literate town would be
found a gay bar called The Wig & Pen, a "straight friendly" pub
where writers bring their works-in-progress to read or listen to other
budding literati.
Perhaps not as poetic or academic, ‘Gi’ magazine is a trendy glossy
monthly with slick international fashion pics, gossip and images of
celebrities as well as thoughtful interviews. There are serious
features about dating, gay families, politics, gay immigrants as well as
adverts for more mainstream items as cars, liquor and watches. There are
no sex ads in the back. For those, one has to read GCN (Gay Community
News), the monthly newspaper which has here-and-now entertainment, news
and events. The third gay rag is Free! which are strictly gay-scene
happenings at the various clubs, bars along with party gossip.
Gay
Dublin at Night
As well as being a vibrant colorful museum with traffic coursing among
its antique Georgian (18c) architecture, Dublin buzzes with countless
cafes and pubs, some with daunting names like ‘The Bleeding Horse’.
Focused in (but not limited to) a section of the old downtown called
Temple Bar is Dublin’s modest but vital gay night life. Half a
dozen bars/pubs, two, B&B’s, a couple of saunas, four or five disco
clubs and dozens of organizations abide quietly among the trendy non-gay
cafes, department stores, crystal shops,
the ubiquitous Spar convenience stores, souvenir stalls—and hundreds of
straight pubs populated with serious Irish drinkers (beer/lager is drunk
here in pint-sized glasses).
The best-known gay bar is The George. It’s not unlike other
watering holes in its casual ambience, somewhat cliquish attitude and
pricey drinks. Actually there are two Georges, one next to the other.
The larger one has a late-night DJ spinning out disco tunes for the
younger set as they shimmy on the dance floor. Some nights are film
night and patrons watch flicks with gay themes: ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ was on
when we stopped in. The other George one is half as big and serves up
drinks to patrons twice the age without the dance.
Just across the river on one of the main streets is Gubu, a
spacious popular bar on two floors. More than a gay brew house this
venue also offers live programs such as dance performances and stand-up
comedy night.
What
makes these watering holes and dance halls additionally appealing is
they are not exiled to seamier edges of town among warehouses or
run-down apartment blocks. Rather, they are close in next to chic
restaurants, fashion boutiques and countless non-gay pubs.
But neither are there rainbow flags to signal their presence either.
Except for the handsomer-than-usual bouncer at the entry to George there
are no distinguishing markings to set it off. It’s an appropriate
decision, much like similar decisions in other European cities where
homosexuality—despite its legality—is still a volatile and ambivalent
stimulus to roughneck hets who love their beer more than queers. Gay
bashing is rare but neither is it absent from the street scene,
especially after midnight and a few pints of brew.
A few blocks away—in opposite directions—are the two openly gay B&B’s.
Inn on the Liffey looks out onto the Liffey River, in the center
of the old town. We stayed at Frankie’s Guesthouse which has been
offering its hospitality for nearly fifteen years. Tucked away on tiny
Camden Place, it appears from the street as a colorful row house with
lavender paint and hanging flowerpots. It offers 14 rooms to visitors
some with and some without bath. TJ Cunningham (Joe) and his partner
Frankie from Malaysia own the residence. For the literate-minded, it is
only a couple of blocks from the birthplace of George Bernard Shaw.
Add
to these venues the hip-hop light and sound that emanates from the
numerous clubs (on different nights) such as Club Soho which has
theme nights such as Candy, Campus (students) and Atomic (80’s night).
On Sunday nights a "homosocialite merry-go-round" happens at the Spy
Club. Then there is another nightclub called Delicious at the
Viva with its Red Room ("chill to mellow music") and Blue Room
("camp classics and cocktails"). At the Temple Bar Music Center there is
the monthly Club Tease with on-stage visuals (girth to drag),
dance floor and two bars. Oil Can Harry’s pub and restaurant has food,
live music and karaoke. There are currently two saunas for men in
Dublin, the most popular one being aptly called the Boilerhouse.
And certainly not to be overlooked is the Alternative Miss Ireland
pageant where, as I was told, "anything goes" from outrageous drag
entries to coifed poodles. Billing itself as "the years most
post-culturally-kinky event", contestant vie in outlandish attire for
the top prize. Check out their web site: (http://www.alternativemissireland.com/2002/index.asp?page=p
review).
Heart
of the Scene
The noisy and sexy gay scene may be found in the various bars and clubs,
but the heart of the gay pulse in Dublin is found in the many quiet
organizations that have formed over the past decade. All of these
listings are found in ‘Free!’ and ‘GCN’, both published in Dublin. On
the last page of GCN, I counted nearly 75 lesbigay listings of
organizations and services offered in Dublin alone. This is clearly not
a provincial city.
The range of special interest groups in Dublin is typical of a
large urban gay community: sports, recovery, Amnesty International,
bisexuals, naturists, leather, spiritual, parents, books/literary. Some
of my favorites as I read the listings were Swimmin’ Wimmin and one
called Clitoratae Sexualities ("sex, desire, gender, workshops,
multimedia dance clubs, queer artists"—for women obviously).
Dublin’s
most outstanding organization is easily the LGBT center called
OUThouse whose administrator, Jim Lowther, told me there are
approximately 18 groups that utilize the three stories of their recently
purchased building on Capel Street in the downtown area. Their web site
(http://www.outhouse.ie/)
lists
services and happenings that range from a drop-in café, a
library-in-progress, counseling, telephone hotline, youth groups, a
transsexual-support group as well as LGBT education outreach to the
public.
Housed in one of the OUThouse offices is the highly valued Gay Men’s
Health Project/Gay Health Network offering a variety of services and
referrals for all health matters for the LGBT community. They also offer
clinical services for STDs and HIV patients in association with Baggot
Hospital.
Jim was especially proud that OUThouse is the only major LGBT center
that actually owns their building, thanks in part to private
donations and funding from the city of Dublin.. To cap this happy
purchase, the President of Ireland, May McAlysse, attended the grand
opening of the new quarters in 2002.
Lowther observed that much of the success of the center was due to a
conscious effort to include lesbians and gay men equally in governance
and offered services. "Exclusionary organizations, for men or women,
often break down after an initial period of defiant excitement. So from
the start we were sure to be inclusive in our efforts and it has worked
very well here." As well, OUThouse makes every effort to network closely
with other LGBT organizations around the country including The Other
Place in Cork city, Red Ribbon Health Project in Limerick, Foyle Friend
in Derry (Northern Ireland) and the Rainbow Project in Derry and
Belfast.
I asked Jim about gay activism in Ireland and how well it was
organized.
"Homosexuality
has only been decriminalized since 1993. Before that time there was
considerable activity to change the laws; there was a big and constant
push against that oppression. But once the law was changed there was a
significant drop in activity. Many people thought that was all we
needed, but in truth that’s just the beginning. Small town Irish
thinking has not yet been liberated to the point where sexual varietion
is acceptable.That’s why most gay people move to Dublin, to get away
from small towns—and small thinking.
"It’s slowly changing as people are exposed more with TV and films and
more coverage in the media. You find some organizations in other cities
like Cork, Limerick, Galway, Waterford and even less in some other towns
like Kerry or Sligo. But there isn’t nearly the force or presence
here of funded national organizations like Stonewall in England or the
Human Rights Campaign in USA. Ireland is still a conservative
country. There is still a lot of personal fear in coming out and risking
rejection from your family or the community you live in."
Is there any good news in any of this, I asked?
"At the local level, there are a lot of organizations to be praised,
considering we’ve had less than ten years of legitimate life.
Surprisingly, the best news comes from the federal government and not
just from the changes in legislation. There is an Equality Authority
(www.equality.ie) which just this year issued a significant report
on the status and condition of gays and lesbians and transsexuals in
Ireland. It’s an extensive analysis based on consultations with many
groups regarding important aspects of life and how they affect gays. It
makes positive recommendations about marriage, adoption, arts support,
discrimination, health, finance and education as they relate to the LGBT
community. It’s very well done."
However,
Lowther continued, the challenge is to disseminate and activate this
valuable information at the grass roots level. "It’s great to have
this report but now the challenge is to inform rural gay people about
their rights and to educate straight people about the unfair treatment
of gays. It’s an effort we’re working on, however slowly." One small
step, he noted, was at a recent choral concert given by the police where
they invited a gay choral group to sing with them. This is a small but
big step. It came about because of an open minded police commissioner
following a gay bashing and the resulting demand for remedial action.
Lowther also noted that right-wing fundamentalism in Ireland is rare
and is confined to fringe groups for the most part. Physical
violence against gays is rare. This comment reassured me a bit
especially; earlier in the day as I was checking e-mail in a Dublin
Internet café I overheard some obviously non-gay surfers, four guys in
their young twenties, react with "that’s sick" when they came across a
site about ex-ex gays. Irish prejudice is ever present even in
‘liberated’ Dublin.
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Cork City
We arrived in Cork on a late afternoon entering the city along the Lee
River lined with warehouses, dockyards, and a power plant that give way
to an older city downtown with its modern opera house, Victorian office
buildings and countless cozy pubs.
Arriving at Roman House B&B there was little question that we
were in a gay B&B; with red plaid carpeting and a hall poster of Joan
Crawford, Roman House B&B is a playful mix of kitsch and comfort.
Owned by Richard and Kevin for six years the place danced with
lighthearted colors on the walls, in the bed sheets and bedspreads. The
furniture was casual and a de rigeur relief of a Romanesque male nude
hung on the wall of our room. Located just a block from the river our
rainbow room was also furnished with that universal ‘instrumentali
sexualis’—a condom with lubricant and a brochure about safe sex.
After
a chat with Richard about places to eat we strolled along trendy Paul
Street with its hearty restaurants and cafes (as well as an Internet
shop) and made our way to the gay Taboo bar for a drink and a chat.
It’s located on a narrow lane off the main Patrick Street. Inside is an
easy ambience, not ‘decorated’ but not dark and brooding; casual,
cheerfully lit, with a bulletin board full of photos of local friends
from the Pride event in August. (The next bash was an
End-of-Summer costume party a week later.) Taboo also offers karaoke
every Wednesday night. Sitting around little bar tables were friends in
pairs and small groups gossiping, laughing or pondering serious issues
with furrowed brows.
I struck up a conversation with one patron, a hotel manager named
Colm who was originally from Kilkenny. He easily slipped into
conversation and seemed eager to explain the easy life that lesbigays
have in Cork. Colm thought that Cork was easy going and more
accepting than Dublin perhaps because it has only half the
population (about 400.000) and gay people tend to know each other more.
Also, Cork is mostly a working class city with few pretensions and
seemingly devoid of the "body fascism and fashion fascism" found among
the gay urban trendy crowds of Dublin (somewhat) or London (definitely).
His accuracy may be debatable, but Colm was more assured when I asked
him about the present influence of the Catholic Church. For
years, I had believed the cliché that Ireland was a sexually uptight
country living tightly within the puritan grip of religious Roman dogma.
Colm, however, described how the Church has squandered its once
powerful influence especially in the past twenty years.
"Before
any of the present scandal about abusive priests and children there was
a major scandal in which a Catholic bishop had affair with a woman
which resulted in a child. Although the affair lasted only a week,
years afterward, having moved to Canada, she wrote a book about the
liaison dangereux partly out of anger. Her son had sought reconciliation
with his father but was instead shunned by him."
The book had a devastating effect, which of course she intended. In
today’s secular world the Church, at best, is described as having
only a modest influence on the culture. Coincidentally, a week after
our talk the results of a national poll on Catholic church attendance
was published on the front page of the Irish Times: fewer than 45% of
Catholics attend services regularly on any given Sunday. There was
no mention of how many Protestants attended Church of Ireland services
regularly.
Colm has lived and worked in Cork for three years. He said he never had
any doubts or fears of police or homophobic bullies. "People are very
tolerant here; a strong attitude of live and let live. "Colm seemed
satisfied with his present circumstances as a professional and as a gay
man. Not currently with a partner, he is more interested in having good
friends and a secure job than having a mate, although he is not turning
a blind eye to a handsome white knight who might come riding through.
Cork is Ireland’s second largest city. (Belfast is bigger than
Cork but it is in British controlled Northern Ireland.) It has a
powerful history of independent thinking and willful thinkers.
Michael Collins, the first ‘chief’ of the new Irish Free State is a
big hero for many here. Unfortunately (depending on whom you ask) just
after he signed the historic Easter Sunday agreement to partition
Ireland in 1922 he was gunned down as he toured this area. Many local
Black and Tan party roughnecks were vehemently opposed to independence,
insisting that all of Ireland be free of British control.
Rural Gay
Farmers
Over breakfast at Roman House B&B the next morning we chatted with
another male couple—Tom and Mark-- who lived near Limerick (about 50
miles away) and were in Cork for a few days holiday. Not surprisingly,
since these were not ‘city guys’, the talk was devoid of gay references
at first.
They
were farmers with about a hundred acres and fifty beef cattle out
in the green rural flatlands of the county. We talked about the
skyrocketing real estate prices in Ireland and about families who
purchased property with lifetime mortgages of several hundred thousand
Euros. (1 Euro = 1 US$) These buyers don’t expect to pay off the loan in
their lifetimes; the plan is to have their children carry the mortgage
and hopefully pay it off. Even rural farmland, Tom said, was going for
about a pricey thousand Euros an acre.
Tom said Ireland’s economy was very keyed to the USA economy
especially regarding the three C’s: Coca-Cola, computers and chemicals.
Ireland offers foreign companies a significantly lower rate of tax so
many USA companies take advantage of this—including Pfizer who
manufactures most of its Viagra here.
Hesitantly but nevertheless curious, I asked about living as gay
people in a rural environment. It was obvious from the drop in
casual chattiness that they were not at ease on this subject.
Mark especially was reticent and offered little comment about their
private or social life. Tom was a little more forthcoming with some
details. They had been together for three years. Gay ‘life’ is
non-existent in such Irish hamlets as theirs. A few scattered
friends on occasion make for socializing. But because Ireland is such a
small country, it is common for rural gays to drive for a couple of
hours and be in a city where there are clubs, bars, discos or saunas for
letting down their guard for a day or two.
Their hesitancy in sharing these few bits of Irish queer farm life
disinclined me from further pursuit.
Later, after
Tom and Mark had finished breakfast and left, our host Richard commented
that even under the cover of a ‘big’ city like Cork it was unlikely
that the rural guys ‘indulge’ in the gay scene other than fringe
spectators having a few beers and enjoying the music. "It’s very
different ‘out there’. You just don’t want the neighbors to know. And a
lot of these guys have never been into the scene so they are not
really comfortable when they do come here. But they like to go. It’s
like a show for them. Tony and Mike have been here several times this
year."
Richard continued, "clubs and pubs in Cork have theme nights like
‘fetish’ night or costume night or karaoke night. But these country guys
are unlikely to participate; it would be too wild for them. They’d feel
uncomfortable taking part but they like to watch and see the city
queers be a little crazy."
Gay Life in Cork
Richard and his 19-year partner James have operated Roman House
guesthouse for six years. Before Cork, where they were raised, they
lived in Dublin for four years then Amsterdam for ten years so their
view and experience stretches further than provincial Ireland. Having
sown a few wild oats in the big cities, they felt it was time to set a
calmer pace and build a financial base for their retirement. Both men
are in their forties. Having made Roman House a viable business, they
plan to sell it next year and move to Brighton, England where
Richard will again take up his brushes and pencils to continue his
artwork. He feels he is not living at his best potential frying
breakfast sausage and flipping eggs. Looking at his paintings hung
around the dining room, I agreed.
Their
life here in Cork has been fairly comfortable and without
discrimination. Cork is big enough to support a reasonable number of
gay venues, organizations and many circles of friends. This year, 2002,
has seen the city’s first Pride Festival that lasted over a
summer weekend and featured parties, shows and performances—but no
parade. In addition to gay events, the city hosts events such as the
annual jazz festival, which brings a lot of visitors to Cork including
many gay folks.
According to him, the recent Day of Diversity (which invited the
gay and lesbian community) was mostly aimed at racial minorities
especially blacks who have arrived in large numbers in Ireland in the
past five years. Ireland has become one of the most attractive
destinations for Africans and Romanian gypsies who are given food,
shelter, some money and health care when they arrive as their immigrant
status in examined (which can take a year). Many of them are having
babies since the newborns are given Irish citizenship thus making the
decision to repatriate the parents much more difficult. Not
surprisingly, there has been a groundswell of resentment toward such
policies and unwarranted privileges.
Richard is one of eight children, two of whom are gay: his brother Steve
is gay and lives in Dublin. Richard offered that some mothers secretly
like having gay sons because such offspring often continue to pay
attention to their mothers when straight siblings are off and gone to
attend to their wives and children. Raised in a Catholic family he, like
many other gay and lesbian people, has pretty much dropped the church
out of his life.
For native gay sons and lesbian daughters, Irish life has been mostly
free of discrimination, harassment and violence in recent years.
Richard also thought that the enmity of the Catholic and Protestant
churches no longer have such a powerful sting. Homophobic violence is
rare. Spiritual venom from the pulpit is minimal since federal legal
protections have been in place for more than a decade. Religious hate
speech is not legal in the Emerald Isle.
Richard’s assessment of the Dublin gay scene was that it had been
seduced by the ‘pink Euro’ into being too commercial and overpriced. He
said the prices for drinks automatically are bumped up after midnight in
the gay bars and pubs like George. In Cork, there is much more
familiarity among the LGBT community. Locals mainly support the gay
venues so there is not this rip-off attitude among the bar owners. When
Richard did some renovations on his B&B, he readily knew a gay
carpenter, gay electrician and a gay kitchen installer.
So it seems that gay life in Cork is active but contained. As
long as one doesn’t expect more visibility, more flamboyance, more
public space, LGBT people can live well amid the busy city. What else
can the community want—marriage, adoption? Given the progress of change
in Ireland (and the EU), even they don’t seem farfetched now.
Cork’s Lesbians
A visitor to Cork soon finds out that one of the most successful
lesbigay organizations is Linc—Lesbian in Cork. It’s a community
resource center "primarily for women who identify as lesbian,
bisexual—this includes transgender people or those in transition--who
identify as lesbian or bisexual."
At
its new offices in downtown Cork, Linc offers a web site (www.linc.ie).
a drop-in-and-chat time several times a week, a film club, a help phone
line, numerous activity groups such as a hiking (Bootwomen), an annual
Irish Women’s Summer Camp, a Fantasy Ball, an upcoming Mural Project and
a well-presented quarterly magazine ‘Linc’. There are also activist
groups that do outreach education and political lobbying. Linc also
marches in the St. Patrick’s Day parade.
Supported mainly by local private contributions Linc also receives
funding from the federal government via the Health Board as well as the
Department of Social, Community and Family Affairs. It has also received
support form the Cork City Partnership to help train phone line
volunteers.
The July ’02 issue of ‘Linc’ featured an insightful series of
testimonies about Irish lesbians who have moved to other countries or
back to Ireland. One very interesting narrative points out that,
according to one study on Irish gays and lesbians in 1995, almost 60% of
respondents had emigrated at some point in their lives and that sexual
orientation was a key factor in their decision.
However, since homosexuality was decriminalized in 1993 a dramatic shift
has occurred. As Irish laws and attitudes have changed significantly in
the ensuing decade, many Irish émigrés who had moved abroad now find,
ironically, that Ireland offers more liberal laws regarding
homosexuality. Consequently there is evidence that the migration has
now shifted back toward Ireland.
The Other Place
The other major Cork lesbigay organization is The Other Place. Located
just off the central North Main Street, the Place is Cork’s LGBT
community center offering diverse services and events for the entire
community. It has a café, bar, a bookshop, social meetings as well as
the city’s office of the national Gay Men’s Health Project, which offers
advice and support for STDs and HIV.
In addition to The Other Place, the directory of venues and services
listed in GCN newspaper under Cork offers more than twenty locations and
organizations.
(3) Limerick
According to the gay Ireland web site and the opinions of some people in
Cork—including the two gay farmers we met—there is supposedly no gay
life in this town.
But a couple of questions asked at an Internet café were cheerfully
responded to by a pretty shorthaired blonde attendant. "Oh yes," she
said without delay, "there is gay club called Yum Yum just two
blocks down this street; and there’s a gay restaurant on the next
turning right." She was quite sure of herself so I followed her
directions and found myself two blocks later with no visible pub and no
discernable restaurant.
The
White House ‘restaurant’ turned out to be a straight pub where I asked
two women chatting up each other if they knew whether this pub was a
mixed place. "I think it used to be several years ago but not any more,"
she offered with a pleasant smile. From the bar tender I heard that the
Yum Yum was a Friday-only club at the hotel around the corner.
Sure enough, at the Glentworth Hotel from 11:30 PM till about two in
the morning every Friday night was lesbigay night. The cheerful desk
clerk also offered that another club occurs at a disco upstairs from the
Savoy cinema every Sunday late night.
In addition to getting oriented, I was impressed by the casual and
non-judgmental attitudes of these straight locals who appeared quite
friendly and willing to help me out--a far cry from the stereotype myth
of sexually uptight Ireland.
So there is some gay life in Limerick—of course. In a city of 52,000
there are surely some pink folks around, but how many are brave or
willing to show up in public is another matter. Not surprisingly,
the younger gen-x and gen-y guys and girls go for it, for the music, the
beat and the comradeship. Before I left the non-gay White House pub, the
same pleasant straight woman told me my best bet was to call the Gay
and Lesbian Switchboard. So apparently that service is well know in
the city, another good sign of a rainbow pulse in downtown Limerick.
Checking the directory in GCN, I saw thirteen venues and services for
gay Limerick, including the Gay Switchboard Limerick and the Lesbian
Line Limerick. There are two gay university groups. Other support
groups are for transsexuals and for youth; another group is the
fortnightly Dining Club. OutFun is a social gathering for ‘alternatives
to the scene’. Of importance are the Limerick AIDS Helpline as well
as the Red Ribbon Project. The choices for party/disco venues are
limited (according to GCN) to the monthly Glentworth party, the Savoy
disco and a third bash called Cosmo held at the Vintage Club.
Main Street, Limerick
Along the main drag of O’Connell Street after 7PM young people
(straight? gay? in-between?) start to invade the fast food eateries, ice
cream shops, and sidewalks in their sloppy outfits of baggy
jeans, oversize sweatshirts with wrinkled T-shirts hanging out and
wearing clunky black shoes. It seemed their dress code was anti-style.
Many of them were loud and acted goofy. The boys sported the popular
haircut that's shaved around the edge with a longer saucer of hair on
top. Some of them looked as if they had done it at home in a mirror and
the result was less than flattering.
Across the main street from the King George Hotel disco was St
Augustine’s RC church. It was September 11, 2002, which occasioned a
commemorative service. Inside the place was packed. A large
hand-sewn American flag hung on one wall behind a tall wooden cross-hung
with a white drape. Below the cross there were hundreds of smaller
Styrofoam crosses pegged into an earthen mound. High on another wall was
a large white cloth dove silhouetted against a blood red background.
On the other side of the main aisle, hundreds of votive candles
flickered in red white and blue glasses. An adjacent TV monitor
displayed a slide show with hundreds of faces (Irish or Irish descent?)
of people killed in the terrorist attack. The congregation sang hymns
like Amazing Grace; homilies were intoned asking to relieve humanity of
its prejudices. More prayers were offered into the trust of Mary or
Jesus. In front on the altar were clergy, police and firemen in their
uniforms facing the congregation. It was a touching and unexpected
ceremony. I had forgotten how strongly the Irish felt toward the USA.
Considering how many millions of families had immigrated to America
over the past hundred and seventy years—including the ancestors of
three US Presidents--I should not have been surprised.
(4) Galway
It didn’t take long to find signs of gay life in Galway. I stopped to
buy a copy of the Irish Times at a downtown news stand and close by were
recent issues of Attitude magazine and Gay Times (both from London), Out
(from USA) as well as Gay Ireland magazine (Gi). Checking the
listings in GCN newspaper, there were sixteen gay and lesbian venues,
groups and services in town, two bars, three cafes, help phone
lines, support groups and HIV care groups. A popular after hours club
was called Bubblelove. As we discovered over the next couple of days,
eight of the venues were lesbian focused or lesbian owned.
One evening we stopped by one of the lesbian-owned bar for men, Zulu,
and talked with one of the bartenders named John. It turned out that,
without knowing he worked at Zulu, I had called him earlier in the day
requesting a room. As we spoke at Zulu he said he had been the manager
of the Rainbow GuestHouse which had closed recently because he lost the
lease. He said he intended to reopen again somewhere else after he
returned from a vacation in the Canary Islands.
Zulu bar is smallish place with cozy but unimaginative interior; colored
lights on ceiling, seating for a dozen; the atmosphere is casual, quiet,
friendly and definitely local. Meeting people was easy—you just start
talking and they cheerfully talk back, especially when they hear a
foreign accent.
I chatted with a man named Phil about this year’s Gay Pride weekend
in Galway. It was a small parade, some parties, flags and lots of
drinking of course. It came through town to the neighborhood near the
queer bars Zulu and Strano a couple of blocks away (both are owned by
lesbians). He thought Galway was friendlier than Cork and much
friendlier than Dublin, although he had met his boyfriend at Taboo in
Cork.
Walking
from Zulu to Strano we stopped at the non-gay Monroe’s historic pub.
The sound of music and the smell of pizza coming from the kitchen
attracted us. The place was packed with men and women, some children—and
lots of beer flowing. The music was provided by a quartet of
red-cheeked middle-aged men with guitars, banjos, a flute, tambourine,
hand drum and four hearty Irish tenor voices. The sound of Irish
folk music is irresistibly engaging and we were happily captured for an
hour. We also chatted with a handsome Japanese student who was in Galway
for three months learning English. The crowd was very
cheerful--laughing, talking and drinking. But the only dancing happened
with two women who could not resist the engaging rhythms.
Strano was much quieter.It’s Galway’s most popular lesbian
bar, a homey watering hole for the locals. From the outside, it
appears that style is not important here but community is, as nearly
everyone inside was huddled in groups with friends busily chattering
away. As the only men in the place for a while, we felt welcomed by some
smiles but we left shortly afterwards.
Galway Women
The highlight of our visit to Galway was a visit with the two women
who own and operate the Side by Side B&B, a women-only place in
Rahoon district of Galway.Located along a tidy street of houses with
hedges, flower beds and manicured lawns Side by Side is a two story
white house with six guest bedrooms. We met with the owners Berni and
Sally. Both were cheerful, energetic and welcoming to us as we
‘invaded’ their feminine territory. Over tea and crumpets I queried them
about their lives in Galway.
RAA: I am told that lesbians are the major gay business entrepreneurs
in Galway. This is the opposite of most cities. Why is this so in
Galway?
Berni & Sally: For several reasons: (1) lesbians saw early on (ten or
more years ago) the value of the pink pound and moved to
capitalize on it in a way the men did not; they just did not seem
visibly motivated toward business enterprise. There were no places for
women to gather whereas the men had, then, a bar and they had the
cruising grounds by the sea. So we had to start our own.
(2) Women were sincerely moved by caring for their sisters to
take the risk to create new venues and in turn, now, run the two
lesbigay bars Zulu and Strano, as well as Bubblelove Club. Also, I think
the women were not as avaricious in that they did not envision making a
large profit as they supported a women’s business venue; men seem to be
more profit–minded, more commercially defined and women not as much.
(3) Historically lesbian women have earned less money and tended to
go local for their holidays whereas gay guys were better paid and
could afford to go off to Dublin or London. So Galway has both of
Ireland’s women-only B&B’s, Malaya and Side by Side. People come here
because it’s a beautiful area with the West Coast and Connemara
wilderness.
RAA: So Galway’s gay history goes back quite a few years?
B&S: Oh, yes. There have been known gays in Galway for generations—in
all of Ireland for all of history I suppose. But the major break came in
the early 90’s when homosex was decriminalized and protective laws were
enacted. Since then there has been a constant flow of energy in the form
or organizations, clubs, early pubs such as Neachtain. It’s the oldest
gay (male) place (about 20 years) which is still extant; it’s patronized
by the older crowd.
And we’ve had a Gay Pride festival for about 10 years which goes
right through the center of the busiest pedestrian street and in front
of all the mainstream shops with all the mummies and kids shopping. New
venues and events keep appearing such as Club Outrageous which happens
once a month and is very popular with young people, gay and straight
because it is an ‘alternative’ happening with an ‘anything goes’
attitude; There are lots of bizarre costumes at these events.
Bubblelove is new. So now people feel they don’t feel they have to
go out of town to have fun.
RAA: What’s it like to come out as a lesbian in modern Ireland?
Berni: It’s very different now since I came out about eight years ago. I
was in my late twenties and was hesitant—it was not the easiest thing
for me to do then. Now I see girls come out younger, especially in the
cities. I think its still true that women in the rural west tend to come
out later than in the cities.
RAA: Why is coming out easier now?
Sally: For one, the church has lost its power over virtue. There
is so much more support now as well as more publicity about
homosexuality. Women are more empowered partly because they earn
more money now, and the younger ones are more courageous and daring and
defiant of tradition than I was. Ireland used to be so Catholic and
superficially virtuous and now it’s more secular with much fewer
pretensions. Galway is not much for attitude and posing—if you are gay,
well that’s the way it is and so get on with it. It doesn’t have to be
loud or political.
RAA: I understand you are married and you are going to a lesbian wedding
this week.
Berni: Yes, we had a ceremony of commitment three years ago with all our
friends. Sally dressed up in a tux and I wore a white formal dress. We
were the first lesbian couple to get married in Galway.
RAA: Do the guys have such weddings?
Sally: This coming October there will be the first gay men’s wedding--and
I can tell you they are really fussing over their outfits to make the
occasion perfect. We’re especially happy to see this because there’s
an impression that gay Irish couples don’t last very long. Perhaps
because so many visible gay guys are young and are just getting around,
or perhaps they are students and not into settling down. Homophobia was
strong in the past and older guys didn’t’ even think about marriage or
ceremonies.
Our chat ended just as the heating oil truck arrived and sally went out
to talk with the driver, a burly guy, about furnace things and fuel
prices. With hugs and smiles from the girls we departed from the comfort
and comforting atmosphere of their busy B&B home.
A note about Irish B&Bs
As we drove around the country staying at non-gay B&Bs our hosts
were very amicable and accommodating to us as a male couple. At none of
these homes—some nestled in little villages with red, green, yellow,
orange or blue storefronts; others sitting elegantly on a hill
overlooking an ancient abbey or a sweeping vista of the ocean--at
none of these places did the hosts show the slightest hesitation of our
sharing a double bed. Several hosts actually asked us if we
preferred a twin or double-bedded room. Either they were oblivious or
have seen so many tourists on their doorsteps that such arrangements are
common and hardly worth the wonder. I’d like to think it was, arguably,
social progress.
Each
night was followed in the morning by a gut-packing Irish breakfast:
juice, 2 bacon strips, 2 sausages, eggs, grilled tomato, black pudding,
toast, cereal, coffee or tea and fruit. When you’re finished with that
you need a good slog on the bogs!
Some of these home-stays and small hotels are located in historical
places . One calm moonlit night we nested in the Beach Hotel at
Mullaghmore harbor on the coast west of Galway. In front of the hotel
was the picturesque marina where years ago Lord Louis Montbatten, the
last Viceroy of India, berthed his motor boat. He was uncle to the
current Prince Phillip and great uncle to Prince Charles. Montbatten had
survived many military campaigns and oversaw the upheavals of India’s
independence in 1948 and the terrible religious civil war that followed.
In 1974, Montbatten was out on a peaceful fishing expedition with his
crew and friends when an IRA bomb exploded aboard and killed nearly
everyone. They were only a short distance from the harbor and rescue
boats rushed out from here but to little avail.
Nearby to our hotel can be seen Lord Louis’
castle
Cassieford, which came into his family through his wife Edwina. The tall
stone edifice can still be seen easily from a distance like a Disney
fairy tale mirage on the nearby hill. A businessman now privately owns
it.
On the outskirts of the city of Sligo there's another comfy B&B with
colored shutters not far from the grave of W.B.Yeats, the Nobel Prize
Irish poet. The graveyard (left) surrounds the church in Drumcliffe
where Yeats’ grandfather was pastor. It sits in a lovely grove of tall
evergreen trees in view of the looming Ben Bulben Mountain where Yeats
loved to wander.
(5) Derry, Northern Ireland:
Two Young Men’s Journeys through War and Bigotry.
Seamus
"At fourteen I was told by my (Catholic) school teacher that
homosexuality was a satanic evil that dwells within—but if such a
person was not consciously aware of his condition he was, instead,
mentally ill." This curse, Seamus told me, haunted him for years as he
squirmed to come out as a gay young man in Derry, Northern Ireland. "I
still feel angry that any young person should be damaged like that, but
it shows you how strong the religion was here and how cruel it was."
Seamus, is a handsome man of 22 with short dark hair, intense blue eyes,
a boyish round face and ‘daVinci lips’. He speaks with a subdued
intensity about his young life that was battered not only by the
shells of harsh religious dogma but by the live ammunition of warring
enemies as Irish Catholic ‘freedom’ fighters (wanting union with the
Republic of Ireland) aimed bullets and bombs at British Protestant
forces insisting that Northern Ireland remain a province of the UK under
London’s rule. "I thought this was how life was. I grew up with it and
didn’t know anything else."
Once, desperately seeking a safe healing place for his gay soul, he
confessed his anguish to a priest. The reply provided no relief: "We all
have our cross to bear. Confession will bring you forgiveness for your
sexuality but if you continue to be active you will live in sin."
Breaking a deeply embedded belief, he no longer goes to church as he
has matured and seen the church’s hypocrisy in forgiving the sexual
behavior of repentant priests while condemning gays and lesbians. "The
church is the most sexually confused place I can image," he now says
with a sardonic laugh.
Seamus
and his partner Paul became lovers in Derry in 2000. I met them when
I arrived at Foyle Friend, the LGBT center in Derry. Seamus was 20 and
Paul 23. The quality of their freedom, independence, legal status and
social acceptance which they feel each sunrise day appears unremarkable
and indifferently casual. But in fact their now peaceful and harmonious
life as a modern gay couple seems nothing short of a marvel as I
listened to the difficult struggle each had endured to come to their
present togetherness.
Seamus grew up in Derry (Londonderry), the very site of the 1974
Bloody Sunday massacre of 14 Catholic protesters by British soldiers.
His entire early life was punctuated by war. His father was incarcerated
for no particular reason and held without trial by the British. He was
taught to hate the Protestants (loyal to England) and his school
was surrounded with razor wire and window cages.
At fourteen he knew he was gay; at 17 he was experimenting with the
scary joy of gay sex. "But the last thing I could think about was
coming out. There was so much other trouble." At 19 he was a student
for a year in America and felt safe enough to come out to himself. His
emotional war with himself came to an end about the same time as the
political war in Northern Ireland subsided. (The shaky but tenable Good
Friday agreement of 1998 is seen as the beginning of the end of the
‘Troubles’)
One evening as I walked with Seamus and Paul on the old walls of
Derry, Seamus led us to a point that overlooked the ‘Fountain’, a
walled-in district where citizens fiercely defend their loyalty to
England. Over the soccer field the British Union Jack fluttered in the
wind as some kids did a kick-about. "We shouldn’t stand here too long,"
Seamus warned, "if they see us they will start yelling at us and
calling us names."
Then
looking in another direction Seamus pointed out the Catholic IRA Sinn
Fein-controlled district where the Irish tri-color flies. Some here
also fly the Palestinian flag as protest against Britain’s occupation of
Northern Ireland. Not surprisingly, some residents of the Protestant
Fountain fly the flag of Israel.
Like many survivors of war, he still feels a simmering regret that "all
these people,"—sweeping a hand toward the Fountain—"are my fellow Irish.
We share the same culture, language, heritage—and we’ve been divided
by hatred."
Today, Seamus has for the most part been able to break free of the
conditioned anger of his community. This has come about, he claims,
for three reasons. The first is being able to see the prison
that hatred creates in the mind. "If you can’t see beyond that, you
are condemned, I think. I always felt that our common humanity was
somehow bigger than the Troubles."
Another peace-making force in his life has been his homosexuality.
"The homosexual community did not become divided between Protestant and
Catholic, loyalist or republican the way many others did. There was
never any trouble in our community that way. We saw each other as a
group outside the conflict. We were not welcome by either side of the
Troubles. It’s probably the only thing they could agree on, but it
helped me to see how wrong both sides were."
A
third assist has been the presence of Paul for almost two years.
They walked into each other’s lives at a club one night. Initially both
felt that tug of sexual appeal but quickly found a deeper feeling.
Seamus sensed that Paul’s calm demeanor had a soothing effect of him—not
to mention that at the time, Seamus was unsettled with no fixed address
so he literally came to Paul’s place with suitcase in hand. They’ve been
together ever since.
" Paul
Ten years ago Paul lived in a rural town of 1500 in Galway County,
Ireland swamped in a conservative Catholic family. He had scores of
Catholic relatives for whom homosexuality was a distant sin somewhere
beyond the bogs in the big cities. Isolated in his emerging sexual
imaginings, frightened by his own impulses to admire other boys and
captive to an oppressive mantel of religious morality, his emotional
life was fraught with anxiety and confusion.
"I felt devoid of an identity—not a ‘normal’ son (he has three
brothers) who wondered about girls. I felt I was not a good Catholic who
could be cured of sin by confession because it was not something I did
but something I was. I was trapped and depressed. My most
important feelings had to be kept a secret from everyone, which
separated me from everyone I loved. It was so confusing and painful."
Today his relationship with Seamus is more than a love affair spiced
with sexual pleasure. For both of these young modern Irish Catholic men,
falling in love has become a slow healing process from the ravages of
war—inward and outward.
Derry Wall Mural Depicting Raymond McCartney leader of the
1st H-block hunger strike--later released as part of
the'Good Friday Agreement'.
Their mutual
presence help steel them against the lingering specter of sectarian
hate, the insidious fear of rejection and the flow of venom from
self-righteous pulpits.
For his part, Seamus has helped Paul to develop a strong edge in
proclaiming his viable manhood—his gay manhood. His self-confidence
reached a peak recently when he agreed to write his coming out story
for the local Derry newspaper, which he knew his family and many
relatives would see.
In that
article, he defiantly proclaimed, "One of the Church’s strong beliefs is
that it is OK to be homosexual because that is the way God made you but
that you daren’t practice it. That is a test of your moral will. Well,
call me queer but even in writing the sheer hypocrisy shines through—not
to mention the whole morality issue that everyone is born equal and made
in the image and likeness of God. People often question why
homosexuals turn away from the Church but if you look closely at these
teachings you find that it is the Church who has turned her back on
homosexuals."
Paul’s strength is continuously tested by his father’s refusal to Paul
about anything to do with his homosexuality. (Seamus’ mother went off to
pray at the shrine of Fatima in Spain for his cure.) But these two men
are committed to their ‘recovery’ from the toxins of their past.
They live together; they share each other’s deeper thoughts and weave
their feelings together into an intimate net of security in a
newly emerging ‘post-war’ city (Derry) and state (Northern Ireland).
Ulster has a tenuous peace now and these two men have found a secret
garden that they hope can nurture them—as much as love can protect
anyone from the harsh barbarities of homophobia.
Foyle Friend
Currently Paul volunteers and Seamus works at Foyle Friend where
they encounter further support and friends. Foyle Friend (named after
the River Foyle that flows through the city) is Derry’s (if not Northern
Ireland’s) premier lesbigay community center. The day I arrived
the action was bustling, varied and welcoming as Paul showed me around.
It was founded in 1980 and is currently directed by Sean Morrin who
sees the need to offer isolated and lonely gay youth an open arm.
Today it’s a lively place with a drop in coffee house (youth, over 25’s
and women each have separate times), counseling services, a web site
(http://www.foylefriend.org), housing project, phone help line, support
groups of all kinds including HIV, a library and internet access.
(Unfortunately, Foyle Friend closed in 2003 for lack of funding.)
Derry Rainbow Project
After Paul showed me around Foyle Friend, he and Seamus and Michael and
I went out for lunch at a local trendy café for a delicious nosh. They
told me I must visit Derry’s other major gay organization, the Derry
Rainbow Project whose offices were only a block away from Foyle Friend.
I could feel the energy of the Rainbow Project even before I entered
their offices. Plastered around the hall and doorway were photo displays
of Rainbow’s recent participation in this year’s Belfast’s Pride
Parade and festival. Staff members and clients showed up in colorful
outfits and outrageous costumes during the daylong celebration. They
were definitely there and queer.
I
was happily greeted by David McCartney, the Program Coordinator
for RP (center in photo) who was only too pleased
to give me the details for each photo. As a political statement, gay
participants wore rainbow colored sashes instead of the usual orange
ones of the other marchers. The reaction? "A lot of people just looked
at us—probably because they didn’t get it—and some people cheered for
us. There was not a single boo, which is progress here."
The Rainbow Project, with offices in Derry and Belfast, was started
in 1994 after the death of activist Jim McShane whose friends saw
the stark need for an AIDS organization. They got funding from well
established HIV groups in UK such as the Terrence Higgins Trust to
support, advise and make medical referrals for individuals effected by
STDs and HIV.
Today the caseload is about 30 clients (in Derry) with AIDS and more
with HIV. David said there is only one reliable and knowledgeable doctor
in Derry whom the Project refers to initially. Further follow-up and
treatment is
referred
to the Belfast Royal Victoria Hospital; they have an HIV unit. But even
there, he said, the services can be slow; it takes ten days to get the
results for an HIV test.
As we spoke, David lit up a cigarette, which evoked a wry comment from
me. He said there is a high percentage of HIV people who smoke,
"These cheap cigarettes in Europe are more addictive than the ones from
the USA. They’re also cheaper so the rate of addiction is higher and
stronger."
Rainbow is kept busy with outreach services to organizations,
companies, and universities who want informed and up-to-date information
on HIV as well as prevention strategies. Last year Rainbow
distributed over 52,000 condom packs, which also include health
educational materials.
The most exciting news in RP’s history was the recent grant of an
enormous donation of 300,00 UK pounds (about $450,000) from the Princess
Diana Foundation for education and health related support services.
David was very thrilled, as was the entire staff; it is the largest
award ever made by the Foundation to any group. RP intends to increase
their staff and widen their scope of services throughout Northern
Ireland.
Wall Mural Depicting Tear Gas Attack
After David
and I had talked for a while, Dennis Cassidy-Martyn, (left in
photo above) a Church of Ireland minister, AIDS client and volunteer
counselor dropped in. Affable and warm, he sat down as I asked
what effect the Troubles had on gay people in Northern Ireland.
Dennis said, "inside the gay community there was never any hostility. I
know Catholic and Protestant couples. We mixed as if there were no
fighting going on. Of course if you were gay you kept it a secret, and
if you were a Catholic dating a Protestant guy, well, that could’ve been
really dangerous in the wrong neighborhood. So you kept very quiet
about that."
Added David (the addicted smoker), "I’d say there was an effect of
the Troubles on our community: drug abuse. My experience with others
is that prescription drug use was much higher during that time--drugs
for anxiety and depression. For those of us who could not afford to move
away to the rural areas (where the hostility was much less or absent),
the anxiety and apprehension were awful. People were killed at random
without any notice. The possibility of being killed at any moment makes
you very nervous; it kept me on alert all the time.
It must be mentioned that amid the bloody violence perpetrated by both
British and IRA forces in the past, a most unexpected irony stands
out: the political leadership of the IRA, the Sinn Fein party headed
by Jerry Adams has always advocated gay rights, equality and
protections. Despite the media’s stigmatizing Sinn Fein for its
intransigent and brutal policies, this rebellious party has been the
most progressive for gays of any party in Northern Ireland for many
years.
(6) Belfast, Northern Ireland
Our final stop on our round-the-country drive was Belfast, a huge
working class city of half a million souls with about 70% Protestant
and 30% Catholic. At one of the trendy city center restaurants,
housed in the old Whig Newspaper Building, we chatted with David
Speer, an out government social worker and his friends Steven and
Darien and Ciara. Decorated with big communist statues from Poland, the
warehouse-sized place buzzed with early evening weekend people out for
food and drink.
Amidst
the din of voices, Stephen made some salient points about today’s
Belfast scene: (1) he reaffirmed that the ‘notorious’ Sinn Fein
political arm of the IRA has the most progressive policies toward LGBT;
they’re socialist minded and strong on human right-equality for
everyone—Catholics and Protestants, men and women, gay and straight.
(2) the current sporadic violence is not religious or political but
rather local paramilitary gangs shooting each other for turf and control
of drug traffic. But still they do threaten to undo the peace accord
because the British government demands they be disarmed. Defiantly they
refuse saying it is the British who must disarm and leave Northern
Ireland to govern itself.
(3) Belfast as a gay community of strength, visibility, political
influence is "10 years behind Dublin, 20 years behind London and light
years from West Hollywood." The generally conservative straight
culture is quietly tolerant of gays but lacks understanding of
homosexuality as a viable and natural way of life. There is still a lot
of reluctance to rock the boat of those conservative politics and
religious attitudes.
(4) Northern Ireland’s culture is changing a lot now that peace has
come. It is more lawful and gays are less afraid to start showing up
in public. Surprisingly, Belfast has had 11 annual gay pride marches
although it has minimal social or political effect here; the festival is
very localized and doesn’t command nearly the influence it does in
London.
(5) Some rare violence happens against gays; in August 2002 a gay
man was killed in a dark cruising area on the outskirts of town by three
guys, one of whom was only 14. A sad case of a horny queer in the wrong
place at the wrong time mixed with low class, boozed-up hooligans. The
police have apprehended the killers.
(6)
Most of the killing, from ’68-’98, were in the neighborhood outskirts
of west Belfast where many colorful and dramatic wall murals and
defiant billboards can be seen depicting one sect over the
other—loyalist Protestants against republican Catholics. In the city
center, however, it was much calmer and in the cafes, clubs and
restaurants there was always a friendly mix of people –such as this
evening in the Whig bar. Protestant or Catholic, unionist (pro UK) or
republican (pro-Ireland) hardly mattered to younger educated middle
class citizens downtown. Many inter-married and were not concerned with
such "irrelevant" matters as remaining loyal to UK or to Eire.
Employment and happiness were more important.
Belfast Gay Places
A quick look in GCN news reveals a list of only 15 LGBT venues and
services in Belfast. For a city of almost 300,000 it is not a large
offering. There are only three for four gay bars/disco clubs: Kremlin,
Parliament, Custom House and gay friendly White’s Tavern. Another four
listings are for HIV and health assistance and support including Rainbow
Project and the AIDS phone Help Line (http://www.aidshelpline.org.uk/) .
The rest of the offerings are support groups and meetings for lesbians
or TV/TS or Naturists. In the Cathedral Offices, directly across from St
Anne’s Cathedral, are offices which house a sort of LGBT center called
Cara Friend. Here is home to a phone help line, a gay rights advocacy
group, and an LGBT support group called Queerspace
(http://www.queerspace.org.uk/).
The Belfast Rainbow Project (http://www.rainbow-project.com/)
office is also downtown among the supermarkets, department stores and
sidewalk cafes. It’s menu of AIDS/HIV services are the same as in Derry
but with a larger caseload of course. Unfortunately when I stopped by
their offices they were closed to the public while the Rainbow Board of
Directors met to plan their enhanced future powerfully assisted by the
large grant from the Princess Diana Foundation.
Later
I stopped by The Custom House pub. It tends to be straight until
about 10 PM packed with middle-aged matrons and mates singing woefully
off-tune along to karaoke music while a few gays watch from the side
tables. It’s very different scene than Kremlin. Here there is a lot of
gray hair—until 10 when the folksy stuff gives way to a bit more camp
and the sounds become disco as it morphs into a queer bar. The
energy picks up as friends pack in for Guinness, Bud and Heineken It’s a
small place with little room for movement except for the tiny dance
area. Of course smoke fills the air, the heat rises--and it’s time for
me to leave. Custom House is very much like other Belfast Saturday late
night pubs for many who do a six-day work week.
The
Kremlin (http://www.kremlin-belfast.com/ )
The
premier gay venue in Belfast (indeed, in all of Ireland, I think) is
the Kremlin bar/disco two blocks away from the magnificent St. Anne’s
Protestant cathedral downtown. The antithesis between these two places
is obvious in the larger-than-life sized bronzed statue of Lenin,
his famous right arm stretched out to the future of Soviet Russia, which
lords above the front entry.
The
manager, Gavin. showed me around and said Kremlin opened in 1999. The
Russian theme was chosen for no particular reason. The dynamic and
vibrant interior is predominantly red—of course. As the crowds pick up
after 10:30 PM, the colored lights awaken as a smoke machine sends ‘fog’
into the main bar area and into the big dance room called Red Square.
Backdrop to the Red Square stage is a large color image of the real
Kremlin. Soviet style statues and busts overlook the dance floor action.
Every night a live DJ spins volcanic sounds for the deaf-defying
youthful dancers writhing to the beat until 3:30 AM on weekends.
The place is jammed late at night starting about 11:30. There is a
separate DJ in the front bar area where the lounge banquette seating is
red leatherette upholstering with red lights bathing the walls. Gavin
said there has never been a problem with the police with whom
they have friendly relations. Kremlin staff check ID’s for over 18 and
care is taken to keep the crowds at least 50% gay since the place is
now popular also with straight kids who don’t care about sexual
persuasions. (How do you tell the difference between gay and
straight youth?)
Kremlin also has the first simultaneous unisex bathroom I’ve ever
seen; perhaps wisely, it’s monitored by staff to assure appropriate
behavior—gay, bi or straight!
Upstairs is a (sort of) quiet room with seats arranged around a balcony
overlooking the entry. In the center is a big double brass chandelier.
The place exudes lively and modern energy—a positive place for young
gays to come out and feel they don’t have to hide in a dark or secretive
place. It’s vibrant and upbeat with an ambience unlike other more
traditional and quieter pub style bars such as the Custom House or
Parliament bar.
Belfast’s Feminine Pulse
As in Dublin, some of the forces for advocating LGBT rights and dignity
are not very public and not present in the popcorn night life. But
insistent and thoughtful people are indeed at work in Belfast—owing, not
surprisingly, in large measure to the lesbian community.
In March
2002, the Lesbian Advocacy Services Initiative (LASI) (e-mail: lasidykes@hotmail.com)
published the results of a landmark wide-ranging survey "on the
needs of lesbians and bisexual women in Northern Ireland." It was
appropriately titled ‘A Mighty Silence’ and was funded by both
local and state agencies including the Northern Ireland First Minister’s
office as well as the Equality Commission Northern Ireland.
The
forty page report defines and clarifies how inequality,
discrimination and social exclusion effect the everyday lives of
lesbians and their families. This not to suggest that gay men are
free of such abuse, but it is generally acknowledged that lesbians are
more vulnerable for several reasons including physical strength, weaker
economic power, the presence of an often hostile male spouse, having
children as well as being victims to a diffuse social conditioning that
demands women be submissive and tolerant of hardship.
Based on more than 200 live interviews with women, organizations
and some gay men, the LASI report lays bare the unsettling reality that,
despite legal changes since 1993 regarding homosexuality, "the
experience of work, leisure, family and education for many lesbians is a
story of vilification, isolation, ostracism and abuse." Homophobia,
in short, is alive and well in Northern Ireland (the report does not
cover Ireland south.)
The most relevant recommendation by LASI is a significant increase in
oversight support services, which in turn can help educate women to
create local agencies—lesbian organizations. Such groups serve to
meet such personal needs as trusted sharing, confidence building,
support in coming out as well as a need to feel protected by local
authorities against all forms of homophobia. Developing services at all
levels, from national to village would serve to increase inclusion and
decrease exclusion among disenfranchised lesbians--single, married or
parenting.
The
study also analyzed various inhibitors to developing such services.
These include fear of violence, homophobic discrimination, low
self-confidence, anguish in coming out, fear of ostracism at work, job
loss and, very importantly, a strong dread of being separated from their
children.
The impressive and moving report is more detailed than this
simple summary. In an e-mail from the dedicated coordinator of the
study, Marie Quiery, she stated: "Its major accomplishment has been
to provide a necessary and realistic tool for developing street-wise
goals and policies at the state level. With such an instrument in hand,
the Belfast women’s community is now lobbying for specific changes in
social and legal programs and legislation. We hope the future for
lesbian women here will now be more defined, more hopeful."
Concluding
As with any foreign place, the experience of being in Belfast--indeed
all of Ireland--was very different from the generalized and simplified
image portrayed in the media and press. Belfast is worn but it's not
a combat zone. Walking the streets of this rough and picturesque city,
seeing the dockyards where the Titanic was built, passing freely
through the once-closed steel gates between Protestant and Catholic
neighborhoods, admiring the enormous and magnificent neo-classical city
hall, walking around the campus of Victoria University, attending the
opera house, talking with gay and lesbian Northerners enjoying the
current economic prosperity and peace—all these true-life sights and
sounds are the real Belfast.
It’s
a phoenix city, a vibrant place where LGBT people are growing in
strength and gaining confidence to celebrate their Pride with a
Festival, seasonal theme parties, warm friendships and a well-funded
Rainbow Project. This is modern Belfast in the northern part of the
Emerald Isle—a real jewel of a land.
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